I Canceled On A Date Because This Text Was A Major Red Flag

Utsha Saha, known on TikTok as @shahutasaha, shared a video recounting her decision to cancel a date at the last minute.

"I'm in shock and I need to tell people what just happened," said Saha, a London resident, in her video that has attracted over 4.5 million views since it was posted last January.

"I'm dressed to get dinner tonight and this man is on his way and he's booked dinner and he's coming to pick me up," she continued, before divulging the major mistake her date made.

Just 30 minutes away from her place, her date sent her a text saying: "Alright you shallow b--ch don't judge my car. I've had it since I was 18 and no one has a car in London."

Saha was shocked by the disrespect from a man she was just beginning to know.

"He is a 30-plus man who has a normal career. We barely have a friendly relationship. It's only our second time getting dinner together," she said, emphasizing the lack of familiarity between them.

She expressed that even if they were closer, his language would still have been unacceptable.

"I barely call my friends cuss words," she remarked, highlighting her discomfort with his choice of words.

Feeling uncertain about how to respond, Saha consulted her younger brother, who advised her to cancel the date.

Despite feeling guilty since he was already en route, she decided to call it off.

"Then I thought to myself, this is not okay for me. And these are my standards. I don't want to get dinner with someone that can just call me that whenever they want," she explained her decision.

When her date arrived, Saha informed him that the date was canceled.

He left but not before calling her to complain about her decision being "rude", then abruptly hanging up when she explained her feelings.

He later sent her a lengthy apology about 10 minutes afterward.

"This is a grown man over 30 thinking it's okay to call a woman a b--ch before coming to pick her up for dinner."

She reflected that canceling the date opened up another opportunity for her.

"You know what? When one door closes another opens, because another sweet boy is planning the next date for us," she shared optimistically.

"The moral of the story is, don't be afraid to cut people off on the first go because what the hell," she concluded.

Users who commented on her video praised her for taking a stand and maintaining her standards.

"He just decided to hand you a red flag on a platter right there and then," one viewer remarked.

"If he's ok with calling you that as a 'joke' IMAGINE what he'd be ok with calling you in an argument. DODGED A BULLET," another user commented.

A third viewer pointed out, "Wow. The way he was feeling insecure and instead of working through it, he projected it onto you. Emotionally inept," highlighting the emotional dynamics at play.