Is Your Relationship A Highly Cherished One? These 10 Signs Will Tell You
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#1 Good communication; open, honest, and clear
Whether it has been six months to your relationship or 15 years, communication is a major aspect of what keeps the relationship alive and kicking. When people stop communicating, relationships grow stagnant, and gradually die. They say assumptions are the termites of relationships. They're right. In a sincere relationship, partners don't continuously assume.
#2 YOU CAN ALWAYS BE YOURSELF
If you never feel inadequate, criticized or insulted and if you can always be yourself when you're around your partner, then I can say your relationship is on the right track. It's extremely important to feel accepted and loved just as you are. If you always feel the need to wear a mask every time you spend time with your loved one, then maybe your relationship requires some work.
#3 You empower each other
Sincere couples respect each other. They don't pull each other down. Many people often tend to give backhanded compliments to their partners, in an endeavor to change them. This is not the sign of a sincere relationship. Sincere couples recognize their partners' gifts and abilities, and support and inspire them to achieve. You know your partner is sincere when their compliments are genuine, they're words are encouraging, and their motive is pure.
In a healthy and cherished relationship, the two partners should not feel threatened by each other's successes. After all, it's not a competition. Be there for your significant other and be happy for them every time they manage to fulfill one of their dreams! Encourage them to go further and reach all their goals, and tell them how proud you are of them.
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#4 Honesty
People in sincere relationships are honest and open with each other. They don't play mind games. They don't say one thing and mean the other. They don't make promises they can't keep. They don't say that he/she is just a friend, when it is subconsciously more than that. They don't tell little white lies, because it is hardly ever a little white lie. If you're having to lie about it, you may have to rethink your reasons for doing so. Not to mention your relationship. But sincere couples also understand that brutal honesty isn't always the key. Sometimes, saying those hard truths gently is what honesty in a sincere relationship is all about. Sincere couples place a high value on honesty and trust. They understand that lying will only weaken the bond they share.
#5 They have their priorities right
Does he say he'll call, and he doesn't? Does she say she'll make plans to meet once she's done with work, but instead chooses to go out with colleagues for a drink? Does he promise to make more time for your relationship, but never pulls through? Sincere couples understand that fulfilling commitments and making their partners a priority is a major determining factor to a lasting relationship. Sure, "she'll understand", but taking that fact for granted is what wrecks relationships. You are with your partner because you chose them, then why make them a convenience rather than a priority? No matter how busy you are, you always seem to find a way to spend enough time with each other. A lot of couples grow apart because they let all kinds of #things come between them and they forget to nourish their relationship. Don't be one of them! Make time for your partner and don't let anything interfere with your happiness!
#6 No blame game
Sincere couples argue productively. They don't lose their temper, and all hell most certainly does not break loose when they do not approve of something in their relationship. Their arguments are healthy, discussing the whys and hows first, and leading up to the solutions. There is no name-calling. Since, even though the fight may be over, the day would be past, but those harsh words would remain in hearts and build up hurt and resentment. Sincere couples first and foremost calm themselves down, refrain from being judgmental, and endeavor to imagine themselves in the other one's shoes to lead to a better understanding of their perspective.
Every healthy and cherished relationship should get stronger over time. Always say "I love you," "thank you" and "sorry." Don't let your pride cloud you judgment and try to make your #partner happy every day, since this way, you'll be happy too. Offer them your support and appreciate those small moments of happiness you two share.
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#7 Everyone is on the same page.
If a woman starts out all casual with a man and she doesn't tell him that she wants a committed relationship, it will likely never become a committed relationship. If you give someone the impression that casual, or whatever, is okay with you, that's what will be assumed going forward. The bottom line is that you have to be straight from the start, or at least as soon as you know what you want. Don't beat around the bush. If someone gets scared and runs away because you were honest and set boundaries, that person wasn't right for you anyway.
#8 Your relationship comes first
This does not mean placing your partner up on a pedestal and catering to their every whim. Nor does it mean putting yourself last all the time to the point of letting yourself face neglect at your own hands. It simply means being realistic and realising that many times, you shall have to choose between your relationship and some other aspect of your life. But sincerity to your relationship means that often in life, we would be given the opportunity to compromise on our personal needs to allow our relationship to remain congenial and operative. The key, I have always felt, lies in perceiving these situations for what they are, and choosing to put our relationship above all else. And when you are truly faithful and sincere with your relationship, you understand that it more often than not, deserves to be given precedence.
#9 Your life is better with them in it
This is rather simple. When someone makes you a better person by being in your life, that is when you know what you have is sincere and genuine. If your partner is a fundamentally honest person, then he/she would most likely have a positive influence on your life; their honesty may rub off on you. But above all, when a person makes you so wholly and profoundly happy, then you know that what you two share is unaffected, sincere and free from illusions.
#10 YOU TRUST EACH OTHER
I think this is one of the most obvious signs you're in a highly cherished relationship. If you trust your partner and they do feel the same about you, then you're in a very healthy relationship, since trust is vital. It doesn't happen overnight, but the fact that you're working on this aspect of your relationship shows that you cherish the special bond you two share and that you're not willing to let anything interfere with it.
Relationships don't always make sense, especially from the outside. So don't let outsiders run your relationships for you. If you're having a relationship issue with someone, work it out with THEM and no one else.
You have to live your own life your own way; that's all there is to it. Each of us has a unique fire in our heart for certain people. It's your duty, and yours alone, to decide if a relationship is right for you. You've got to stop caring so much about what everyone else wants for you, and start actually living and deciding for yourself
