Men Share Their Eye-Opening "Yup, I'm Gonna Divorce This Woman" Moments

#1 Her Pregnancy Was A Surprise For A Few Different Reasons

"She let me know she was pregnant and wanted my permission to tell all her girlfriends during a girls' night out.

Since I knew there was no possible way it was my child, she was also unknowingly admitting to having an affair. I can math, and she can't. It was with her boss.

Lawyered up the next day, and he ate her alive in court. I got primary custody of our child we already had, and child support, and a sheriff's notice that she had to vacate my home in 30 days.

I never knew she could be that stupid."

#2 She Threw The Thanksgiving Turkey In The Trash

"We were already not speaking.

It was Thanksgiving. I knew she wasn't going to bother, but I made a turkey and whatever goes with turkey for my then-eight-year-old daughter. I had the turkey out on the counter to rest after roasting. My beloved bride walked in, calmly threw the turkey in the kitchen trash can, and walked out. I had to take my kid to Golden Corral for Thanksgiving.

That was it. I was done."

#3 I received disdain, disrespect, and disinterest

“I actually realized my marriage would not go the distance while talking with a friend over breakfast. My buddy was lavishing praise on his wife and said something to the effect of ‘She always has my back.’ Suddenly, it hit me: I got the complete opposite from my wife. I received disdain, disrespect, and disinterest. It was a few years before we separated, but the path was set that morning.”

#4 A Tragic Accident Leads To A Terrible Discovery

"Not my wife, but a long term GF. Backround: I'm 48, GF, is 49, we're never getting married, kids are not an option, we don't live together, we live our privacy, we have a monogamous relationship.

My GF was at a medical conference in Charleston. Sometimes I go with her if it's a cool location, but been in Charleston a million times.

After work one night stopped at the pub for a quick bite to eat. I pull out of the lot and some dude blew through a red light and smashed a car doing like 60mph. Both cars are destroyed; one body was ejected from a vehicle. Of all the people in the world, it's my GFs sister. I explained to the cops I'm the boyfriend of the of the drivers and will follow them to the hospital, I'm the calling the GF frantically, she's her only family, straight to voice mail, calling the hotel non-stop, begging them to find her.

The sister is all messed up, coma, broken arms, so much other stuff and I can't give any instructions because I'm not family.

Finally I say screw it. I jumped in the car and start driving to Charleston. Call her non-stop the whole time, no answer. Get to the hotel, find out what room she's in, knock, no answer. Get back to the elevator, doors open and there's my GF, high heels in hand , pressed up against some dude making out with him.

She didn't even say a word. I just said was her sister was in a bad car accident, she's in critical condition, in a coma and they need you at the hospital. She says 'wait,' and starts asking asking all these question, I said 'Shut your mouth. Every answer you need to know has been left in the 20 voice mails I left on your phone and at the hotel.' She tried to get in the elevator with me and I just looked up at her and said, 'It's over. Flagger Hospital is where you need to be.'

And that was it. It was over."

#5 She Screamed Something At Their Daughter That No Kid Should Ever Hear

"I always refused to raise my voice during arguments, which usually made her crazier and scream louder. After one such argument, during which our 3-year-old daughter was playing upstairs, she started coming down at the same time her mother was storming up the stairs like a child of comparable age. Our daughter was in the way and her mother got in her face and screamed, 'GOD, I FREAKING HATE YOU, MOVE!'

Of course, my daughter came to me, hurt. That was the moment I decided it was over."

#6 He Got A Nasty Surprise After His Deployment

"When, after being in Afghanistan for 8 months (May '02-Nov '02), she was missing, but had my car, I found two random women, with kids and pets, living in the apartment I paid for, the electricity cut off, had no money in my bank account, a pay advance authorized by my commander, and a friend telling me to go easy on her because she was 5 months pregnant with HIS kid.

OH! And he had had heart surgery to remove some kind of cysts from his heart just before I left. He was 23, had a pacemaker, and basically half a heart. If I scared him, he could die.

I'd say that was the moment."

#7 She Decided To Move To Canada Without Me.

“I knew it was over when I got home from another long day at work and my kids told me that mommy took them out to Burger King to eat and told them they were moving to Canada and Daddy wasn’t going with them.”

#8 The Accusations Started To Fly

"When she presented a picture of our four-year-old daughter and me lying next to each other on the couch watching Blues Clues to our marriage counselor as evidence of my 'inappropriate conduct' around our kids.

Thank God he saw right through that immediately and told her to knock it off."

#9 A Week Of Silence Shows How Peaceful Life Can Be

"Besides the narcissism, random violence, and violent outbursts, it was her strange punishments. Her last one doomed her. My crime? I forgot milk on the way home from work so she didn't talk to me, not one word, for a week. PURE BLISS, for a week. When she asked if I was ready to apologize I handed her the divorce papers. 'Why?' 'Because you rob me of solitude but provide me with no companionship.'"

#10 I had this revelation, ‘I’m happy! This is what happiness feels like.

“After my Hollywood writing career hit a sudden wall, I got a job with BMW Design to write a movie about how they design cars. When I arrived in Munich, they gave me a brand new convertible sports car and said, ‘Take it up to the Alps for a few days and come back when you feel like you understand the car.’ Speeding through the snowy Alps, blasting music, roof down, heater fan blowing, I had this revelation, ‘I’m happy! This is what happiness feels like.’ And then I had a second revelation: ‘If my wife were here, she’d tell me to slow down. Turn down the music. Put up the roof. And she’d be complaining about smelling cigarette smoke from passing cars.’ In that moment, I realized I had forgotten what it felt like to be happy in my body.”

#11 ‘It’s OK to see the man you’ve been seeing on the side.

“The moment of revelation for me was when I told my now ex-wife, ‘It’s OK to see the man you’ve been seeing on the side. Once you get it out of your system, I’ll be here in the marriage when you come back. Do what you need to do.’ She didn’t respond — she just sorts of sighed. I really knew it was over when she finally agreed to see a marriage counselor and he convinced my ex-wife to tell me she wanted a divorce.”

#12 When You Hope She's Not Around, It's Over

"When we went on a family vacation and I hoped she'd sleep the entire time so I could have fun with our son."

#13 Calling Her Bluff? Kicking Her Out.

"Her: 'I can't live in this house anymore. It's not in a major city.'

Me: 'We're less than an hour away from one. Also, I inherited this house. It costs me nothing but upkeep. Also, I pay every bill. You work 6 hours a week and have 1 class. Where do you get off demanding anything?'

Her: 'Buy me a new house or we're done.'

Me: 'Get out of my house.'"

#14 She Had Hung Up Some Valentine’s Day Paintings I Made For Her

“I knew my relationship was over when I got on the computer and saw a copy of a signed lease for my wife’s new house. I obviously knew nothing about her plan or that we were even heading down that path. The previous day she had hung up some Valentine’s Day paintings I made for her. Little did I know she had been planning to leave. A complete shock.”

#15 The Abuse Reached The Point Of No Return

"I endured a physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive relationship for over six years with my first wife, four of which we were married. There were many, many instances that should have caused our marriage's demise.

The proverbial straw that broke the camel's back, though, was eight days after I had major oral surgery. Due to a freak medical occurrence, I had to have 28 teeth cut out and two holes drilled into my sinus cavities from top of the back of my gums.

She and I were in a grocery store parking lot, and I asked her not to start an argument in the store because it's a small town and I was so tired of being 'those people.' Her reaction was to backhand me in the mouth. Six times.

Or at least, I counted six times because I'm pretty darn sure I lost consciousness. I just remember waking up when we were pulling into our driveway while she was freaking out because my face was against the window and blood was coming from my mouth like a fountain."

#16 A Fiancee Is Manipulated By An Ex-Boyfriend

"Wasn't married but about 1 month away from marrying. We worked together at the same job for about a year but she was the first shift and I was second. We both had weekends off so we could and did things on the weekend. We had got everything paid for and were set. One weekend, actually on my birthday, I went to get a haircut before we went out for the night. I weirdly noticed this one car in the parking lot of our apartments. Didn't think too much as there was a ton of cars that would come and go. She had gone up to a casino with her mom the previous night and stayed overnight. That wasn't uncommon as they were both huge gamblers. I got back and did some cleaning and she walked in. She looked at me and throw her ring on the table and said, 'We need to talk. I think I like 'Joe' more now and decided I want to be with him. I don't need the ring and you can cancel the wedding.' It all clicked that car I'd seen was 'Joe's.' She didn't go up to the casino with her mom but with 'Joe' instead. Even more messed up is I called her mom to see how close they were to home and she covered for her daughter. I then come to find out her friend 'Joe was an ex-lover who also broke up her last engagement. He was always trying to befriend me too and act like we were best friends. I have never felt less of a man, more ashamed and hurt then when this happened. I sacrificed a lot for her. I was there doing anything and everything for her and her family when her dad very slowly passed away. And she ends up treating me like a pet she could get rid of when she got bored. I still can't remember a few months of time after that happened. I was in a bad place and it took awhile to get my head straight. My best friend of over twenty years helped me out so much! He made sure I was going to be ok and took me out to blow off steam. We took an awesome trip to some fun spots with a few other people. I owe him so much for the help. My family really helped too. I ended up meeting my fiancee now about 6 months after I had that happen. We have been together for over five years and we will be celebrating our first daughters birthday on June 29th!"

#17 The Harder I Tried, The Quicker She’d Run Back To The Other Man

“After my wife told me she was pregnant with someone else’s child, I made a vow to raise the unborn child as my own. In the beginning, she was on board. Later, the harder I tried, the quicker she’d run back to the other man. Then one day, the best couples therapist money could buy asked her, ‘Do you want to make it work?’ Her answer was no. That was the moment I realized I’d done everything I could to save the marriage.”

#18 His Grand Gesture Wasn't Grand Enough

"Not me, but one of my best friends. He got a pretty substantial year end bonus from work. He decided to use most of it for his wife's Christmas gift and pay off her remaining student loans (~$14,700).

Christmas morning (he was nice enough to let me stay at his place when I traveled for work, as he lived 20 minutes from the airport) we all woke up and had breakfast. His family and her parents came over and we started exchanging gifts.

Besides paying off her loans, he had gotten her a few times items. She opened the card saying her loans were paid off she just sat there for a minute. After the silence, and assuming she was kinda in shock, she asked, 'Did you seriously not get me anything else? I bought you that stupid keyboard (the wrong one, btw) and you only got me a few things?'

At that point, his brother-in-law and myself decided to go hang out in another room for a while they ended up getting into a huge fight. A day later, when he was dropping me off at the airport, he told me that he was going to visit a lawyer and get a divorce."

#19 Heartbroken Child Signals The End

"My wife was around less & less...had to be free to live her life, go out with her friends. More often than not she would call me to pick our daughter up from daycare, after promising to pick her up & have some girl time.....just tell her I'm working late or not feeling well. She always had something better to do & the kids were old enough to know better. I went to pick our daughter up one day, when they called her name she came running over until she saw it wasn't mom, again, slumped her shoulders & slowly walked over to ask 'what's her excuse this time?' That was the breaking point, told her to get out, even helped pay her security deposit to get her out."

#20 She Came Out In The Most Hurtful Way Possible

"She woke me up in the middle of the night to grab the extra blanket off the bed. I expected to find her disgruntled on the couch alone the next morning. I found her in the guest bed with another woman- both naked. No forewarnings or clue-ins. Just despondent betrayal.

I woke her for answers and got a whole lot of mumbles. Decided to split for 'space.'

That weekend, we both ended up at the same bar on the same dance floor. I thought she'd followed me there to make amends. She'd brought the same girl and completely ignored me when I called out to her. When I walked up to her, she pretended I was a stranger...I told her I'm not going to play any games and didn't know what was going on. She said she didn't want to be married. I gave her the ring back and went to tell my friends goodbye that night. I didn't want to tell them why I felt so embarrassed.

She saw me talking to my friends and decided to make out in front of us with her new woman directly on the dance floor eight feet away from where I stood while everyone stared.

Looking back now, I realize she probably was scared to come out. I can give her credit for that. But she was an awful person for the way she did it and for never having the courage to say to my face whatever she was feeling. I thought we were best friends. I thought we were going to be together forever... She asked me to marry her.

Now I'm just grateful for not being a liar and a coward. I've made a fresh start. Sold everything. Traded my entire wardrobe and style to feel like I'm in a new life. Sure, I've lost more money than I ever thought imaginable. And the dog... I just keep optimistic that I'll find someone who deserves my time. I don't focus on the past and I have faith in God and the future.

Whoever I marry next will be grateful for a man like me and loyal. But until then I'm gonna enjoy the single life again and just play."

#21 Nothing Worse Than Not Standing By a Soldier At War

"I was on deployment and she yelled at me for interrupting her family's celebration when I called on Christmas."

#22 Left A Toxic Relationship

After exactly two years of couples therapy, trying desperately to find the tools to fix a broken marriage, I realized that my wife and I were still having the exact same fight and that therapy had no such tool. It was then that I realized the purpose of the therapy was for me to find the courage to leave a toxic relationship and finally see that I would be a better father apart from my children’s mother.”

#23 "What's Her Excuse This Time?"

"My wife was around less and less...had to be free to live her life, go out with her friends. More often than not, she would call me to pick our daughter up from daycare, even though she'd promised to pick her up and have some girl time...'Just tell her I'm working late or not feeling well.'

She always had something better to do and the kids were old enough to know better. I went to pick our daughter up one day. When they called her name, she came running over until she saw it wasn't mom, again. Her shoulders drop and she slowly walked over to ask, 'What's her excuse this time?' That was the breaking point. Told her to get out and even helped pay her security deposit to get her out."

#24 The Cops Were On His Side When She Lied

"When the cops showed up and arrested me while I was washing dishes. Found out after being taken to the station that she had claimed that I had been beating on her and my five-year-old son. Was acquitted in court a month or so later. The situation was so messed up that the cops actually testified on my behalf."

#25 A Woman Switches Sexuality

"I worked, she played. She woke me up in the middle of the night to grab the extra blanket off the bed. I expected to find her disgruntled on the couch alone the next morning. I found her in the guest bed with another woman- both naked. No forewarnings or clue-ins. Just despondent betrayal.

I woke her for answers and got a whole lot of mumbles. Decided to split for 'space.'

That weekend we both ended up at the same bar on the same dance floor. I thought she'd followed me there to make amends. She'd brought the same girl and completely ignored me when I called out to her. When I walked up to her she pretended I was a stranger...I told her I'm not going to play any games and didn't know what was going on. She said she didn't want to be married. I gave her the ring back and went to tell my friends goodbye that night. I didn't want to tell them why, I felt so embarrassed.

She saw me talking to my friends and decided to make out in front of us with her new woman directly on the dance floor eight feet away from where I stood while everyone stared.

Looking back now I realize she probably was scared to come out. I can give her credit for that. But she was an awful person for the way she did it and for never having the courage to say to my face whatever she was feeling. I thought we were best friends. I thought we were going to be together forever... She asked me to marry her.

Now I'm just grateful for not being with a liar and a coward. I've made a fresh start. Sold everything. Traded my entire wardrobe and style to feel like I'm in a new life. Sure, I've lost more money than I ever thought imaginable. And the dog... I just keep optimistic that I'll find someone who deserves my time. I don't focus on the past and I have faith in God and the future.

Whoever I marry next will be grateful for a man like me and loyal. But until then I'm gonna enjoy the single life again and just play."

#26 Her Affair Happened Over The Phone, But It Had Real World Consequences

"15 years in, and I find texts on her phone. Completely blindsided, no clue she had it in her to cheat. She told me it was just texting and begged for forgiveness. I caved. A month later, checked the phone bill to find that it never stopped. Confronted her again and cue more begging and more denial on my part. I couldn't fathom that she would let the life we had built go down in flames. This went on for a few months. So many promises. One night, I caught her on the phone when she thought I had left.

She said it was just a friend she could talk to and she had let things go too far, promised to break all contact, swore it was never physical. Then I found emails. She detailed things that made me sick to read, but also included descriptions of his house. She broke finally, but swore it was all just in the line of duty. That's how they'd met, you see. Visiting nurse service, and this guy was a client. Promised she was done. She loved me, you see? No chance she was going to let 15 years go like that. I wasn't buying it anymore, though.

She announced she was going out one night with a work friend. Promised they were only going to the bar, then she'd be home. Maybe late, but not too late. She had taken over her own phone account by then but wasn't bright enough to understand that Google Latitude still showed me where she was, and I wasn't about to show my hand. She kissed me goodbye, bee-lined right for his house, and was there until the wee hours of the morning.

Once I knew where she had headed, I called her dad and my best friend to keep me from doing anything dumb. I will love them both forever for keeping me calm while my world went freaking insane all around me. My father-in-law offered to stay with the kids and wait for her to get home. Around 3 am, while I was couch surfing at my buddy's place, she sent me a nasty text, asking where the heck I was. I texted her a screenshot of her little GPS dot at her boyfriend's and let her know I'd be sending her some paperwork soon."

#27 Finding Pictures Of An Affair Is Never Good

"I was working on a mother-daughter scrapbook as a Christmas present for her. Was going through her Google photos account looking for pics of them together. Came across a selfie she took with some dude laying on her. Confirmed her second affair. Knew it was over the moment I saw it. That has screwed me up pretty good."

#28 When Things Turned Physical, He Knew It Was Time To Go

"When she physically attacked me in front of our 11-year-old son. I'd been pondering the idea for a while, but that was the clincher. I'm not ashamed. She's nuts.

It'd been years of verbal/emotional abuse, threatened violence, cursing, most of it in front of the kid. I wouldn't engage and would shut down for 2-3 days. Why speak when literally everything I said was going to result in that? She would accuse me of being abusive during those shut-downs. Maybe so. But it was my only defense mechanism.

This was usually because I was an 'incompetent' dad. Which I wasn't. But I had expectations and she coddled him. He knew she'd come charging to his rescue if he waited long enough. Basically, I could do no right. Friends stopped coming over because they were tired of watching it. Her brother and his family were encouraging me to get the heck out.

I was 5'10" and about 220 pounds at the time. She's 4'11" and about the same weight. She'd shake her fist in my face and threaten to 'knock [my] teeth down [my] throat.' So I'd have this neanderthal manatee in my face, threatening bodily harm, and I've been training martial arts for years. TKD, hapkido, BJJ. Multiple black belts. There's no way I'm raising a hand against her.

So when she attacked me, well, I've had much worse in training. It was that she did it at all. So I threw her out.

Of course, I got reamed in the divorce. Bad."

#29 A Thieving Drug Addict

"When she staged a robbery of our house so she could pawn all of my stuff for drug money."

#30 Things Changed For The Worse When My Stepdaughter Became A Teen

"When my stepdaughter became a teenager, my ex-ramped up the nutso. She had always been an impatient, angry screamer of a parent. But as my stepdaughter became a young woman, my ex just went crazy with envy or something. I know lots of moms have a hard time with teenage daughters, but their base level patience is so much better than my exes were. Threats of cutting hair in the middle of the night while daughter slept, pulling hair, slapping face, ridiculing in front of her friends, swinging something that missed and put a hole in the wall - I was out, with the kids."