Modern Relationships Are Failing More Than Ever. Here’s Why.

#1

While it's easy to find a match on the latest dating app, it's become difficult for people to follow through and invest in the relationship. When it's time to step it up a notch, we feel our phone vibrate. It's another match. So we quit early and invest our energy in more clicks and scrolls. We don't even allow love to bloom, let alone grow.

#2

Rather than seeking someone who we can deeply share thoughts with, we choose someone who we can "Netflix and chill" with. We are into the instant gratification cycle. Just like we no longer have to physically go to a video store and pick up, examine, and read dvd after dvd to find a solid selection, we now can just scroll our screens and pick something at random. If it doesn't satisfy us within the first 10 minutes, we don't give it a further chance. Instead we go back to the home screen and just select a different movie.

#3

And then there are the physical lives we lead which consist of a constant scramble moving from point A to point B, continually jumping through hoops with our yoga mats, our briefcases, our grocery bags, and our phones to constantly gaze at. Relationships? Who has time?

#4

We think we want a relationship, but we only want it, if we can get it now. We don't have time to explore one another, dream with one another, or fully love one another. If we don't create the time for these things, then in reality we really don't want these things.

#5

Modern Relationships Are Failing More Than Ever. Here's Why.

You ever wonder why being in a relationship seems so difficult nowadays? It seems we have so many chances to connect with people who have similar interests, yet in the end, a lasting relationship always seems to fail. Are we just hooking up and forgetting what true love is supposed to be all about?

Why Modern Relationships Never Last

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While it's easy to find a match on the latest dating app, it's become difficult for people to follow through and invest in the relationship. When it's time to step it up a notch, we feel our phone vibrate. It's another match. So we quit early and invest our energy in more clicks and scrolls. We don't even allow love to bloom, let alone grow.

Why Modern Relationships Never Last

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Rather than seeking someone who we can deeply share thoughts with, we choose someone who we can "Netflix and chill" with. We are into the instant gratification cycle. Just like we no longer have to physically go to a video store and pick up, examine, and read dvd after dvd to find a solid selection, we now can just scroll our screens and pick something at random. If it doesn't satisfy us within the first 10 minutes, we don't give it a further chance. Instead we go back to the home screen and just select a different movie.

Why Modern Relationships Never Last

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And then there are the physical lives we lead which consist of a constant scramble moving from point A to point B, continually jumping through hoops with our yoga mats, our briefcases, our grocery bags, and our phones to constantly gaze at. Relationships? Who has time?

Why Modern Relationships Never Last

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We think we want a relationship, but we only want it, if we can get it now. We don't have time to explore one another, dream with one another, or fully love one another. If we don't create the time for these things, then in reality we really don't want these things.

Why Modern Relationships Never Last

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Instead of spending an entire day with that one special person, we would rather spend time on social media keeping up to date with hundreds of other people, half you don't even know, while receiving and responding to texts all day from people you do know. So much for a day of focusing deeply on just one person.

We'd rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options'. We're ‘social' people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We're greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don't want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We're disappointed in everyone.

#6

Technology has brought us closer, so close that it's impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don't feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There's nothing left to talk about.

#7

We're a generation of ‘wanderers' who wouldn't stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we're not meant for relationships. We don't want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we're ‘different' than the rest. We like to believe we don't conform to social norms.

#8

We're a generation that calls itself ‘sexually liberated'. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We're the hook-up-break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn't. Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It's all the temporary fulfillment we need. Sex outside relationships isn't a taboo anymore. Relationships aren't that simple anymore. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached we've left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.

#9

We're the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don't know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn't take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We'd break up because, long distance. We're too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.

#10

We're a scared generation scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don't allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we've created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it'. We don't want to be vulnerable. We don't want to bare our soul to anyone. We're too guarded.

#11

We don't even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.' We don't consider them sacred anymore.

There's nothing we couldn't conquer in this world, and yet, here we are ham-fisted at the game of love the most basic of human instincts. Evolution, they call it.