Sometimes we are sitting around, having coffee and we see them there — older men and younger women. We people watch the man in his forties with a college-aged kid — who looks like she is old enough to be his daughter or granddaughter. There is no question of their relationship because it’s usually an extravagant show of PDA right there in front of the baristas or the bartender. We wince, we laugh, and we pat them on the back. We always have something to say about them. But wait. As long as the young woman is of legal age and she is a consenting adult, who are we to judge? What is the official age difference in a relationship that makes it taboo? We snicker with our aunties about cradle robber uncle in our family. That one that our cousins call SVU because his new wife is 35 years younger than he is. Sometimes we mention that the woman is a gold digger or has daddy issues, but what we really should be asking is what it is about the man in that relationship that makes him tick? There are reasons why a man dates a woman half his age. Although every relationship and every person is different, we can all agree on some things that are apparent to everyone when they see grandpa walking hand-in-hand with a younger woman. She is intoxicating and less responsibility for him to bear. She looks good on his arm and also can be invisible if he doesn’t want anyone to know they are dating. She is attention; she is anonymity; she is acceptance. Overall, he might be dating a younger woman for her lifestyle more than he is actually dating her.
Naughty Reasons Why Dirty Old Men Love To "Rob The Cradle"
Mid-Life Crisis
When older men date younger women, a lot of times it’s not for a serious relationship and is just temporary. Many times, a man will do the obvious — a toupee or hair plugs; Botox to decrease wrinkles or even trade in their SUV for a convertible.
He might take to a dance club on Friday nights, even though his moves aren’t quite up to today’s standards. He may even try out hot yoga and hope to meet a hot, young thing in her yoga pants before the class is over.
Then, as a last middle finger, he dates the boss’s daughter just to strut their feathers. This is the dreaded mid-life crisis. Hopefully, the woman he is dating is also going through a rebellious stage in their life and they get the emotional lean they probably want from dating an old dude. Ah well, we all get a freebie when we look at our past.
The Stamina is unreal
When surveyed, 79 percent of older men report a regular roll in the hay being very important to them. In a man’s eyes, a younger woman equals a younger body. Not just aesthetically, but younger people tend to have fewer aches, pains, digestion issues, and all of the small ailments that come upon us every year we get older.
This is much less of a stress on him — considering he is probably suffering from these things, as well. It is much easier when only one person in the pair is falling apart. They are able to take longer hikes, have much more time in the bedroom and are able to challenge him — which may not be the case with women his age. They’re still interested in intimacy and new things, which in turn puts their stamina and drive above women older than they are.
Young Girls Are Easier To Leave Behind
Let’s face it. Younger women appeal to older men because they are a novelty item in their minds. Most of the time, it wears off when they find out that the very things that attracted them to their girlfriend are the same things that will probably end the relationship.
Sure, there are some relationships that are genuine, and two people truly can love each other despite an age difference. But the lack of responsibility that a newer, younger woman brings, coupled with the fact that she has her whole life ahead of her means that she will bounce back.
It leads us to question how many younger women who date older men go on to do it again after their first experience with an older man fails. The fact that younger women are easier to leave is appealing to men because isn’t the whole point to find someone younger again?
Younger Women Are Perkier
Mature women who would be the same age as these men are more set in their ways. They have a certain way they like to arrange their kitchen. They have tea at a specific time in the morning. Little does the cradle robber realize he’s dating someone with a carefree life who won’t necessarily take care of him the way a more mature woman would.
As happy as they are they are being in it for themselves, they are way more cheerful about it than older women. It’s so much more pleasant to be with someone younger, because maybe if they’re young enough, they might be less jaded and cynical about life.
Still, it’s way less devastating when the cradle robber finally figures out he might have made a mistake because it’s almost like a trick that their girlfriend was only in it for herself. He thought that was his M.O.
Younger Women Are More Flexible
Being that they are not set in their ways quite yet, or established in their careers, or busy raising children that take all of the attention away from the man in their life, younger women tend to be more emotionally pliable. They are also more flexible when it comes to making plans.
Before they have a family or career commitments, planning time together is a little simpler. This makes them easier to be around and in turn, easier to love. This also goes hand-in-hand with her mate feeling less rejected while in this relationship because she can be there for him. A fine line is drawn in this situation because no one wants to be at someone’s beck and call. That can make anyone — young or old — feel like the relationship is draining them and very lackluster.
Anonymity From His Peers
When a man dates a younger woman, a lot of times, she will have a completely different lifestyle than he does. The men her own age are wearing cheap tee shirts donning logos of their favorite bands with their ripped jeans, and all they have to say about the world is banter about social networking.
They know about YouTube and Venmo and they like vinyl records. They have Facebook statuses about that recent night of drinking they just had. It’s a different circle of friends and most likely different places that they hang out in.
This is the same for an older man. He probably makes phone calls when he wants to talk to someone. Most likely, Joe Schmoe from the office won’t see them together if they are from different sides of the neighborhood spectrum; especially if he is having an affair. It’s conveniently easy for them to be unknown.
He’s Hungry and She’s Ready
Maybe when he was younger, he never got to date anyone he thought was desirable. Maybe he was too scrawny, or poor, or undesirable himself to rope in the girl he always longed for. So, when he gets older, establishes himself, and makes more money — in other words, becomes more stable and appealing to the opposite sex — he is able to chase after and secure the woman of his dreams.
The problem is, she’s still the woman of his teenaged dreams. Dreams as supposed to evolve, buddy. So now, he can buy that toy he could never afford — so to speak. He’s longed for it for ages, and now that it’s come to fruition, he wants more of it. This is how some men become serial cradle robbers — turning over one young woman after the next.
He Thinks He’s In Charge
Because of his life experience, Mr. Cradle Robber might feel like he is in charge of this relationship more so than previous ones he had with a woman closer to his age. Younger women may be more attentive when it comes to certain things, and genuinely idolize or look up to their older boyfriends.
They might listen more, and don’t quite catch on to his malarkey as quick as a woman his age. They might know about it, but put up with it a little longer than mature women that don’t need him quite as much — especially in the financial department.
They watch and see how things are done. They need help, and he looks at it like he is the guy who is going to set her straight. Once she starts to gain her independence, that’s when the relationship ends.
The Music Is Different
Being with a younger woman is like a trip to a place he has never been to. She watches different kinds of movies, enjoys different hobbies and is different than the humdrum life of a forty-plus-year-old. She might be more in tune with what the latest trends are or the hottest music.
She could possibly open his eyes to new media and the art scene. She might be into tattoos and even body piercings. She knows the cool places to eat and about 300 different ways to drink coffee or a smoothie.
For whatever reason, he probably will get an earring. We’re not sure why this is; it seems to be the signature move of an older sugar daddy, but earrings nowadays are only worn by some rappers and Harrison Ford. Get it with the program, gramps.
They Compare Younger Women To Owning A New Car
When love is new for men, they get that same fluttery feeling in their guts before they see their new love interest. It’s that new car smell when you sit in it for the first time. There are actual stars in our eyes when we have a new love.
The excitement and thrilling adventures that new love brings are always prevalent when you have a new younger woman to date. The sparks start flying almost instantly, and most older men find themselves feeling astonished when their feelings are returned.
This is why it’s so fun to date someone so new, and shiny that revs their engines. We hate to compare cars with women, but it’s the truth. There’s something about driving a new car that no one has driven in before.
