Signs You're A Side Chick

#1 You Have No Clue Where He Lives

He knows where you live and visits often, but you have no idea what his house looks like or where he even lives, despite the fact that you two have been dating for months now. He has never even talked about his home or what his address may be. When a guy is entirely uninterested or unwilling to show you his home or invite you into it, it's likely because he shares his home with another woman. Perhaps a wife?

#2 He Hates It When You Take His Picture

He says that he doesn't like his picture taken, even though he has many on his social media accounts. He just doesn't want to be seen in a photo somewhere that he shouldn't be seen at with someone he isn't supposed to be with. He pretends to be camera shy but he is really afraid someone might spot him if you post to social media. If you notice that your guy is dodging selfies like bullets whenever you tilt your phone to take a picture, you may be a side chick.

#3 He Doesn’t Show Up When He's Supposed To

Let's just say he does make plans with you, but constantly stands you up with no explanations or apologies. If he gets ghost a lot, that's a serious red flag. He would have called to cancel, but how was he supposed to do that with his girlfriend standing in front of him? If he cancels a lot of arrangements you had planned out, he probably has someone else pulling him away.

#4 He Only Calls You for Sex

He won't take you out movies, dinner or bowling but can always find time to have sex. He is using you for one thing and one thing only. If you only meet after dark or after reasonable date hours, such as 11pm or later, chances are he has another life that he leads the hours prior to those late night "booty call" hours. When a guy refuses to connect with you on a mental or emotional level, it could be because he's already connected that way with his main woman.

#5 You Only Hook Up at Your Place

He doesn't take you out on any dates in public and only wants to meet at your place. Does this sound right to you? There's a difference between a guy being a homebody and trying to be sneaky with your relationship. Every couple has dinner at restaurants or goes on movie dates from time to time. If your boo has a problem being seen with you in public, you are in fact a side chick. Point blank period.

#6 He Doesn't Want To Be Seen With You

If you feel like you're in some movie about espionage because you're always sneaking around, something is wrong. When you two do go on dates, it's either in another town over, some small local place, or it's at your house. This is because he doesn't want to get caught with you in public by someone he knows, albeit a friend or coworker. And on the off chance that you two are in public, hand holding is very rare. He doesn't show you a lot of public affection. He says your secret little place is romantic and that's where you two go if you ever go out, but it's really just a place he thinks nobody will recognize either of you at.

#7 You Don't Know His People

People in healthy and real relationships meet each other's friends and family, whether at family functions, birthday parties or happy hours. His entire history is a mystery to you. A man with a woman is not likely to introduce his side chick to the family. They would end up telling on him. If you haven't met them and they live in the same city... Houston, you have a problem.

#8 You Never Spend Holidays With Each Other

Valentine's Day, Christmas and Thanksgiving are meant to be spent with the people you love and who love you back. If he's always MIA on holidays, he might have a main girlfriend he is spending those moments with instead or a WIFE!. When you do celebrate holidays, it's never on the actual day. Valentine's Day is celebrated a week before. You may get the day after Thanksgiving, or New Years Day, sometime around noon or later.

#9 You're Not Connected Through Social Media

When you're the girl on the side, you may find that your guy says he doesn't use social networking, or he makes some other excuse as to why you can't be his friend on Facebook or follow him on Twitter. In fact, he locks everything down to ensure you can't somehow connect via social networking. He has you blocked and even keeps his screen name private. This is probably because social networking sites are some of the easiest ways to get caught.

#10 He Has Two Cell Phones

You know he has more than one phone and you only have one phone number. Your name is even wrong on his contact list. He has to suddenly hang up when you enter the room, or he sees the call on the phone and swipes it off. What is he hiding from you? Nobody needs more than one phone, especially one that's secret. And, when you speak to your guy on the phone, if he speaks to you in a very formal tone without even addressing you by name more often than not, that's a definite sign you are a side chick.

#11 He Never Spends The Entire Night

Sleeping over almost never happens and when it does, he has to leave at the most random times. That's because his time is being accounted for by another woman. He has to be home by a certain time, or even if his woman knows he's cheating, all she cares about is that he comes home every night to her, so he does. If he hasn't tried to move in some of his "stuff' then you just may be the side chick.

#12 He Refuses To Make You Two Official

Some guys may just not want to settle down for a range of reasons, but if you have dedicated a lot of time and effort into a dude and he doesn't want to commit, perhaps it's because he already has something else at home and/or isn't that into you long term. He won't even give you a title of girlfriend or partner, or whatever. Yes, titles might be clichÃ© but if you've been holding him down for a while and he still doesn't make an attempt to be committed to you, he's already committed to someone else.

#13 He Buys You Gifts To Make You Happy

Asking for more time or information? Here's a little gift to keep you off track. Hush gifts are things he buys for you when you start talking about serious shit, like moving in together, committing, or spending time with his family, and an argument sparks. Because he wants to keep you as his side chick, he finds your material weakness and plays on that to stray you away from the serious topics and also to keep you around. Sucker!

#14 Uh…He’s Married

He may tell you he is getting divorced or is separated from his wife, but a lot of times, that isn't totally the truth. Sometimes married men want to have their cake and eat it too. Enter with your force field up. Asking him about his views on the future of your relationship is like pulling teeth. Simply put, this guy doesn't want to think about the future because he really isn't planning one. Tell him to wait until the divorce is final and give you a call.

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