Things Every Wife Hides From Her Husband

#1 The Ex-Factor

Men are known to share their past love stories with their wife, but women usually don’t. They have an innate fear that their past will cause trouble in their married life. Yes, there is such a possibility. No husband can digest his wife’s love stories so easily, you might not be an exception too. Just imagine for a second, once upon a time your darling wife was in the arms of another man and he was her world. Does your imagination perturb you? Of course, it does. No man can think of his woman getting cozy with another man. Your wife is a clever woman, she knows what will happen if she reveals her past. She will never put her marriage at risk by letting you know of her relationship history. And it’d do you good if you restrain yourself from digging up more about her premarital life, buddy, the past is the past. She might have had an ex, but you are her present. Live in the present and enjoy!

#2 Materialistic Desires

Women hate to come across as materialistic. So, some of them do hide their desire for comfort, luxury, and money.

#3 Crushes

Yes, every woman would have secret crushes just like men. But your wife won't reveal this side of hers to you

#4 Trouble in the Relationship

Think: Fighting. Passive-aggressiveness. Disagreeing about where to live; if kids are in the future. If a woman can't seem to work through relationship issues with her spouse privately, she'll often schedule a therapy session—and attend alone, according to Jodie Voth, MMFT, a therapist in practice in Canada. "I cannot tell you how often women come to therapy without their husband's knowledge," she says. "Their goal? To decide if the relationship is worth saving or not."

While doing this individually can be effective, says Voth, but in order to maintain that trust with your man, it's really better if he's on the couch right next to you. "Women hide therapy because it feels risky to involve him," Voth says. "He now has equal opportunity to influence the fate of the relationship. It's OK to do personal work in a given session, but he deserves a chance to be involved when it relates to him, too."

#5 Health Concerns

If a woman finds a suspicious mole, a lump in her breast or has an otherwise disconcerting “symptom,” she may often stay mom or downplay her anxieties. "Women will hide worrisome concerns from their spouse to protect their husband or decrease distress—especially if it feels major," says psychologist Kristen Carpenter, Ph.D., Director of Women's Behavioral Health at Ohio State's Wexner Medical Center. But this gut instinct to stay quiet about worries—as if keeping mom about something means that it doesn't exist—isn't the best idea. "You're closing yourself off to support and not allowing him to see concerns," she explains. So resist the urge and don't bite your tongue. You deserve a shoulder to lean on, and tag-team support is what marriage is all about.

#6 Sexual Preferences

Carpenter says she regularly has women in her office who complain that they're sexually unsatisfied. "Women don't talk about sex nearly as much, and very seldom does [any sort of formal] sex ed include talk of pleasure," she says. "People often just fall into their sexual lives." So if it's meh? Ladies just "deal." Don't deal!

That's largely in part, perhaps, because wives generally don't want to tell their guys about the between-the-sheets action they don't like, says Carpenter. "It's an emotionally-charged topic, and women are afraid they'll hurt his feelings," she adds, "which is why I always suggest a conversation about sex outside the bedroom, bringing it up slowly, and telling him something you do like along with what you don't."

#7 Personal Successes

Believe it or not, women are less inclined to go home and grab about a promotion at work, a big raise or even an improved marathon time. "They do not share successes enough," says Carpenter. "They don't want to feel there is a race between themselves and their spouse, and think discussing their successes interferes with the male provider role."

But let's be real. If you wield more power at work, are the more accomplished athlete or bring home more bacon than him, does it really matter? According to Carpenter, some men do feel threatened. "Many will say, 'I want a smart woman, an accomplished woman, but not more so than me,'" she explains. "Unfortunately, that exists. The best is the answer is to find the right guy—someone who derives their notions of self-worth from a variety of domains, not just the areas where you're successful, too." So don't sabotage your personal successes on a man's behalf. Ever!

#8 She Gets Jealous!!!

No doubt she loves you a lot, but she has some trust issue in the relationship. Though you are a gentleman, she fears of you being seduced by someone better than her. In fact, she hates your female secretary, because she spends too much time with you at your workplace. The height of insecurity is reached when women spy on their husband every day. They smell their shirt, search their pockets for movie tickets and also listen to their hubby’s phone conversation. Sometimes, they take some extreme step like shadowing their husband! “Why the hell would they do that?” this question might be swirling around in your mind, the answer is simple, they always want to make sure that their darling is still committed to their marriage. And women try their best to hide their suspicious nature from their husband since it can make him uncomfortable.

#9 Her Source of Income

Yes, a feeling of self-reliance gives a lot of happiness to one’s soul. Most women love to stand on their own feet, but for homemakers, it’s not possible. Since they have no source of income, they are left with no option other than taking the financial help of their hubby. Some women find a source of income for themselves so that they can at least look after their personal expenditure. There are many housewives who run personal blogs and earn money by publishing eye-catching content. Some women take up marketing jobs that can be done at home, such jobs that help them in buying things like clothes, beauty accessories, and also a lunch when they hang out with the kids. Your wife may not reveal her source of income because she believes that you may reduce the amount that you have been giving her every month.

#10 The Number On The Bill

As you may have observed, your wife goes out to buy a laundry detergent but has 3-4 bags when she returns. Yes, she just needs a reason to hit the shopping mall. For every husband, his wife’s shopping bill is a big pain and husbands try their best to reduce unnecessary spending. However, for a woman, it’s not so easy to forget the habit of shopping and boy they know how to do it secretly. When their husband is out for work, they place the order online and receive items at their doorstep. Some women even manipulate the grocery bill to collect some extra bills from their husband, that’s how they save money for that expensive exotic lingerie collection that caught their attention. No matter how strict you are, you can never have the full control of your shopping freak better half, so it’s better if you can ignore the topic.

#11 Bank Accounts

"Women may keep secret bank accounts for different reasons, but I've found this is something they may have been taught by their mothers," says Detroit-based clinical therapist Tomanika Witherspoon, LMSW. "For some, it's a golden rule to always have a stash, just in case the relationship does not work."

This may give women a sense of security—a nest egg to fall back. However, if a husband finds out about secret funds, he may think you're banking on your marriage to fail. "There may be a sense of betrayal," Witherspoon adds. "The husband may feel that his wife may be hiding larger secrets." Finances are loaded concerns in a marriage, so it's best to weigh possible outcomes before withholding funds from your partner.

#12 Kinky Behaviour

When she is all alone at home, she may be doing some 'kinky' stuff. But she won't reveal 'that side' of hers to you.

#13 Her Eating Habits

When it comes to having food, women always make sure to avoid eating too much while having dinner with family and also pretend that they are not crazy for food. But the reality is different, they like to have to have a heavy lunch, and they just hide their desires. When you are around she speaks about the advantages of joining a gym or maintaining a balanced diet, just to show that she is a fitness freak. After you go to the office, she is a lonely queen in the house. You have no idea how many times a Pizza Hut guy bangs your door in a month! There are women who secretly hide food for themselves since they don’t get a proper share in the family meal.

#14 Her Social Media Accounts

Having a secret account on social media is not something new for many women. It gives them a freedom to meet new people and make friends easily. There is nothing wrong in it, but why do they keep it confidential? Because they feel very uncomfortable sharing their thoughts on social media if their husband is also included in the friend list. In fact, some of the husbands do not like to see their wife on social media, because they fear that it may give a chance for a man to approach her. Not everyone, but a majority of the men keep checking their wife’s Facebook wall in order to know what kinds of comments they are receiving. Women use their fake account for multiple reasons. They stalk their ex-boyfriends and have a chat with random men without any fear. Or maybe they just need it to vent about their boyfriend or husband without him reading it.

#15 What Happened At Her Bachelorette

You may think your bachelor party was the most scandalous thing ever. Wait till you hear what happened at her hen night. She'd never tell you that she really let her hair down and got nasty. The pre-wedding mayhem is a territory she'd never let the conversations flow into. The next time you're with her friends, mention her bachelorette party and notice the sly grins and smirks she exchanges with her friends. You'd know what we mean.

#16 That She Faked It

Women have a reputation of faking orgasms, the world knows. Women think telling us they didn't enjoy sex will shatter our self-esteem, which is why they will never accept that they fake orgasms. In fact, they're so used to it that they've probably forgotten what a real one feels like! While it is not very difficult to spot a fake orgasm from a real one, some women are really good actors. If she's too inanimate and the ecstasy isn't reaching her eyes, she's faking it! Yes, the one that makes her bring down the ceiling with loud shrieks could be fake too. The only way to know if it's real is yet to be discovered, sorry!