"This Is Incel Behaviour": Woman Shocked When Friend Of 7 Years Shows His True Colours

Imagine being friends with someone for almost a decade only for them to call you names when you say you won't date them. This Redditor shared a series of unhinged messages that she received from her male friend of almost a decade after she refused to date him.

"This all came after a year-long hiatus from talking after he professed his love for me in a very creepy and uncomfortable message that he’s since unsent. He kept spamming me with memes until I finally responded, then this happened. We’ve been friends for over 9 years, and never once have I shown any romantic interest in him. These are some of the craziest messages I’ve ever received."

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After the year-long silence between the two, her friend continued to share the same sentiment in a long message saying that "You make me really fucking happy as a person when I'm spending time with you but sometimes it feels like my chivalrous interest with you is underappreciated or just unappreciated sometimes."

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He then continues over a series of messages finally asking, "Could you like one of these so I don't feel crazy."

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When OP said she needed time to think he doubled down and sent 8 messages in a row. 

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One of the texts read "Let me find favour in your eyes" followed by a picture of a sunrise.

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It was then that OP replied telling him that she cared about him as a friend and that she still needed time since what her friend had shared was a lot to process. She shared her concern that being friends again was going to send the wrong message.

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The conversation continued with OP's friend asking for some validation as to why they were appreciated as a friend.

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A day later, after agreeing to give OP some time, her friend sent her a message asking if they could send her something explicit taking the conversation in a direction none of us saw coming. 

She even asked whether he was joking.

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OP rightfully asked why he would think that was an okay thing to do. She said that if he was asking to send her a dick pic, she would block him but her friend apparently felt that the thing that was keeping the two apart was the sight of his penis and if only OP were to see it, she would clearly fall head over heels.

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OP reiterated that she didn't have romantic feelings for him and asked why he felt asking to share an explicit picture was okay. 

The answer she got? "Pretending and holding back is so last season".

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OP then went on to tell him that she was angry that he couldn't respect the fact that she needed some time and then proceeded to send strange messages to her. She also added that she was offended by his earlier messages that complimented her in a romantic way and that she was not comfortable reciprocating. 

She finished the message by saying, "It sucked when you went all incel on me towards the end."

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This did not go over well. Her friend shot back, "Also if I'm an incel you're toxic so let's not name-call."

He then claimed he could get someone if we wanted.

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OP said that his asking to sext her while she was in a relationship was inappropriate. 

He proceeded to call her boyfriend a "beta fucking cuck" and claimed he was not a "little dick incel". Which is a lot to unpack... in therapy. 

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OP then said that if she was so toxic, it was okay for her to not be in his life. She reiterated that the way he was behaving was in fact like an incel. 

"I'll see you in hell," was the succinct reply. He also lamented the fact that he wasted 7 years on her.

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When OP said that waiting around for 7 years was his choice. Clearly, the 7 years of friendship counted for nothing if he didn't get a trophy at the end. 

He then claimed in another message that he was over her and was willing to show her what 'endowed' meant because she wouldn't experience that. 

The line that won the Pulitzer in this conversation however was "Mf I grew this fucking dick for you you ungrateful clod." 

Lord Byron could never.

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After some time passed, OP reached out again asking for an apology but her friend just doubled down.

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After one final long message from OP telling him that he never saw her as a person but rather someone to sleep with for over 7 years, we hope she blocked him. 

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Commenters were as flabbergasted as we are. 

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Others added that this was indeed a difficult read. 

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Others applauded OP for her patience in maintaining the conversation. 

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Some were concerned for OP's well being.

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