Woman Expects All Family Members To Follow Her New Rules For Family Thanksgiving, Gets Uninvited Instead

Thanksgiving is a day for gratitude shared between loved ones and a day of celebration with wonderful food, drinks, and games. But it’s also a day that brings about drama in some families. When a pregnant sister-in-law sent through a list of demands to be followed at family Thanksgiving dinner, she didn’t anticipate that she could be uninvited from the celebration.

The story was shared by the host of the party, nicknamed 'Strange-Whinny-473' on Reddit, as she asked the community of 'AITA' whether she was in the wrong for uninviting her sister-in-law who's not willing to compromise on her rules for the family dinner, just because she's pregnant.

She starts by telling how it's a big family gathering every year and her brother is having his first baby which makes it even more special.

Thanksgiving dinners bring family traditions to life and are a memorable event for all the members. Though some compromises can be made to include everyone's special needs, but it's unreasonable for one family member to ask for so many sacrifices from everyone when they are not willing to bend even a little.

She continues by telling how she received a list of demands from her sis-in-law on the family group chat.

She wants to come, but with pregnancy comes all kinds of restrictions and she wants those to be implemented on all family members. Like no poultry, no alcohol, no games, and food should be served early.

Obviously, it was hard for OP whose family isn't vegetarian and her turkey was already ordered, which was gonna go to waste. It was 9 people who had to make sacrifices for 1.

She tried negotiating with her by making adjustments to include her as well.

But the couple and OP's mother called her 'unreasonable' and 'unaccommodating', which really annoyed her and she uninvited her sis-in-law if she's not willing to compromise.

Her brother blamed her for ruining their thanksgiving by excluding her, instead of accepting OP's terms.

Eventually, they didn't join in and it killed the vibes of the family dinner. Though OP is sad but she feels she wasn't unreasonable and asks the community if she's a jerk for what she did.

A user asked for updates on Christmas to which she replied that a separate household affair and that though they missed the couple they still had fun with her twin niece and nephew.

But overall users were supportive of her and declared her innocent and not a jerk. A user said that if they want a specific Thanksgiving they can organize it themselves.

Another made sarcastic remarks on her demands and called SIL a 'Pregnant-zilla'.

A third mentioned that pregnancy is not a disability.

A pregnant user told how pregnancy makes things hard for her but she can only expect her partner to accomodate her. And the alternatives OP offered were reasonable.

Another commented how pregnancy doesn't give people a right to dictate others but only their own surrounding.

One user who herself is a mom told first time moms to get over themselves and that the world doesn't revolve around them.

Another told the SIL to get some lessons on compromising.

At the end of the day, you can’t make everybody happy, but you can do your best to ensure that most people reap the benefits. Why should all suffer when it’s only one person that can’t partake in all the things that make Thanksgiving special?

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Woman Expects All Family Members To Follow Her New Rules For Family Thanksgiving, Gets Uninvited Instead