Kiera Breaugh's controversial views on which partner should be paying on dates have sparked intense social media debate. While many people agree with Kiera that men should always be paying on dates and that men women splitting bills is actually an impact of patriarchy. However, few believe that paying for their bill is a matter of self-respect and others believe paying for meals on a date is all based on individual circumstances irrespective of gender.
Woman Explains Why Men Shouldn't Ask To Split The Check On Dates: ‘Make his pockets hurt’
By
Samantha in
Relationships
On 5th February 2022
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Kiera Breaugh, a dating expert on TikTok has sparked debate over who should be paying on dates.
In a TikTok video posted a few months back, Kiera argued that men should be the ones paying on dates because expecting a woman to split the bill is an "effect of the patriarchy".
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Kiera speaks about the impact of patriarchy on women and says "one of the most insidious and ridiculous effects of the patriarchy is literally women paying 50/50."
"Men going around being like: 'It’s 2021, equal rights, right? You’re going to pay 50/50.' The fact that men expect 50/50 from women when women don’t get 50 percent of anything," she continues.
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Kiera adds that women do not even receive 50% of the "money, safety, privilege, or space," before questioning why they are expected to pay 50 percent.
"Pay equal amounts even though you don't have equal rights? Do you understand how ridiculous that is?" she says.
"Why are we starting at the end? Why are we starting with women pretending like they're equal before they get equal?" the TikToker adds incredulously.
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"It benefits men to say: 'Oh yeah, I’m a feminist, I believe in women paying 50/50 on dinner dates,'" she explained, adding "and that is the only time they believe in equality."
She concludes the video by telling her followers: "Make his pockets hurt."
The video has got views in thousands and people took to the comments section to share their views on this debate.
Many women agreed with Kiera, pointing out that men weren't keen to split other responsibilities - such as domestic duties - with their female partners.
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"A ton of men only want 50/50 financially but it’s never 50/50 domestic duties or child rearing," wrote one.
"Making less money than a man, working the same amount of hours, having to do 90% of the housework…. 50/50 is a scam," agreed another.
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However, many also pointed out that paying for their own meal is a matter of self-respect and it is important that they pay for their own meal.
"There is no way a man is paying for my food or drink. I’m a grown woman," one person commented.
"Personally I feel like I have the same rights and I pay for my half," another said.
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Some people also pointed out that paying for meals on dates should all come down to individual circumstances regardless of gender and should not be generalized.
"Whatever's best for the individual...I've made more than my bf since we've been together and he's in school it would be a little ridic if he paid," they wrote.
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