Woman Refuses to Drive 50 Hours to Accommodate Girlfriend’s Fear of Flying

A 22 year old woman posted to Reddit’s popular subreddit, r/AmITheAsshole asking whether she was in the wrong for refusing to drive her girlfriend for over 50 hours. 

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She said that her 20 year old girlfriend Emily did not have a driver’s licence and also had a fear of flying.

This meant no international travel for the couple and anywhere they went would have to be accessible by road travel. 

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This arrangement worked fine for the couple, until OP was invited by her parents to visit her grandparents who lived in a far away state. The trip would last seven days. The parents also invited Emily along.

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Once the plan got going, Emily asked OP whether the two could do a road trip instead with OP driving all the way to her grandparent’s state. 

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OP said that the plane trip would have taken at most 12 hours while the road journey would end up being 50 and since her girlfriend didn’t drive, all of the responsibility would fall on her.

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At this point, OP said, "I'd really like you to meet them, but it's not possible for me to take that trip by car, sorry baby, but I won't."

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OP’s girlfriend spent weeks trying to convince her to drive the 50 hours but OP refused. “She insisted that love is about making concessions and helping each other and that we could have a sweet time doing this adventure.”

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OP thought this wasn’t fair and ultimately went on the trip alone. Upon her return, Emily refused to speak to OP claiming she had been ‘abandoned’.

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The responses were overwhelmingly in OP’s favour with one user saying, “NTA-Phobias are very real and very serious but she needs to realise that some phobias mean you have to give something up if you cannot accommodate the phobia. You not being willing to drive for 50 hours as the solo driver is a great example.”

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Another added, "NTA While I am truly sorry for your GF having flying issues, it was completely unreasonable for her to want you to drive 50 hours round trip. Because she doesn’t drive, she may not realize how exhausting that may be( as well as dangerous) Sorry she felt abandoned, but there was no other way for her to reasonably attend."

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