Woman's 17 Dating Rules Have Reddit In a Bind

"Getting a google number, it's easier and free to change."

Her first rule was to keep a Google number. One that could be changed easily, perhaps to ward off potential stalkers.

"Having at least one long (over 30 minutes) phone call prior to the date."

The next one was to have a long phone call before ever meeting in person. This would help her get an idea of whether she had conversational chemistry with the person.

"Having it close to home, and using a ride share service. Your license plate can help someone easily find you."

Then she would opt for a ride-share service rather than using her own vehicle so she couldn't be followed or tracked.

"Taking my time to get ready, I don't mean fussing over myself."

"Rather allowing myself to unwind for at least an hour after work (watching a show, having a glass of wine, taking a nap) so I wasn't taking my day into the date."

The next one was to really enjoy her time even before the date so she would be in a good mood.

"Sharing my location and a photo of my date with a trusted friend."

This one is perhaps one of the more common ones and that was sharing her location and a photo of her date with a friend.

"Going to the same few spots for a first date."

"I was a regular at a few places and after a while, they could tell by my order if I was feeling my date. I also tipped generously and got to know the staff and owners."

This next one was to make friends with those at her usual date spot so she could ask for help from those she trusted.

"Not limiting myself to age, race, or religion."

She also kept an open mind because love can come in all shapes and sizes.

"Knowing my non-negotiables."

She also had a rigid list of non-negotiables that she wouldn't waver for.

"Not feeling guilty about ending a date early."

Rather than spending time with a date that she knew she wasn't enjoying, she would leave when she felt it was no longer working.

"Being upfront and honest with what I look like and updating my photos if I gained/lost a significant about of weight."

She would also take catfishing out of the equation so there would be no hard feelings once you feel expectations weren't met.

"Not asking my single friends/unhappily coupled friends for advice."

She would also not ask people in unhappy relationships or singles for dating advice. Which makes a lot of sense.

"Not putting a timeline on when things should happen."

She also didn't put pressure on herself to hit a deadline.

"Saying when and if I felt uncomfortable. Asking staff to walk me to my car/ride share."

She would also leave or express when she felt uncomfortable and wouldn't be embarrassed to ask for help.

"Being confident in who I was and what I wanted."

She also communicated what she wanted and was confident about it.

"Not answering questions I was uncomfortable with."

She also didn't feel obliged to share more than she wanted to. This is especially important if you're on a first date.

"Asking important questions from the get go: are you married, is anyone married to you, do you have kids etc and asking in multiple ways."

She would also not shy away from asking the big questions from the get-go rather than just making small talk.

"Enjoying the moment, my phone wouldn't be out unless I was calling someone to rescue."

She would also put time and effort into the date itself so she could make the most of it.

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After reading these rules, one commenter said, "I'm an engineer but even this is overthinking it."

Another commenter defended her actions saying,

"What are these comments even? None of these things are remotely weird or overly paranoid, except maybe the phone call prior to date thing but to each their own. You keep doing what you’re doing girl."

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